At 30, dating (in NY) is so easy as a guy.

Being a 30-year-old guy is like being a 22-year-old girl in NY City.

You have peak optionality.

But it is not even the optionality.       

That’s a big part of it.

But the other part is that each year you get older, you get better and better at being alone.

And I don’t mean that in the sense, like you know, how to endure being alone.

I mean you get better and better at enjoying being alone.

And the cost of not being alone goes up accordingly.

And then you add into this, right.

Here’s the cherry on top, because dating is pretty easy.

You get into situationships pretty easy.

And situationship offer like 80% of the benefits that a relationship would offer minus that 20% of closeness, which is totally valuable and real.

So, I’m not downplaying that, but you can get all the benefits without the commitment or the responsibility.

Peter Pan Syndrome really kick in at 30 more than it did at 25.

I would have wifed up a girl at 25, I was you know, uh, it sounds so bad, but like temptation to be an F boy at 30 is overwhelmingly greater at 30 than it was at 23, 24, 25, because really back then unless you’re like the top 5% of guys you couldn’t pull it off.

 Source

Below, from DeepSeek (the Chinese AI):

In US dating slang, “f boy” (often spelled “f-boy”) is simply the censored, social-media-friendly version of “fuck boy.” They mean the exact same thing.

Here is what that looks like in the actual US dating scene:

The primary motive: He is primarily interested in casual sex and validation, rather than a genuine emotional connection or committed relationship.

The manipulation: He doesn’t just sleep around honestly. A classic “f-boy” uses manipulative tactics to get what he wants—like love-bombing (overwhelming you with affection early on), future-faking (talking about trips or relationships he has no intention of following through on), and breadcrumbing (giving just enough attention to keep you hooked).

The aftermath: Once he gets the sex or gets bored, he typically pulls away, ghosts, or becomes incredibly flaky.

The aesthetic (stereotype): In US culture, the term is often stereotypically associated with guys who wear chain necklaces, athletic wear (like Nike socks and shorts), flat-brimmed hats, and are overly active on Snapchat or Instagram—but behavior is what truly defines him.

A tiny nuance:

Sometimes people use “f-boy” very loosely to just mean a “player” (a guy who dates/sleeps with a lot of people).

However, in the strictest sense, a player is usually smooth and upfront about not wanting commitment, whereas an f-boy/fuck boy is actively deceptive and emotionally careless.

But to directly answer your question: If someone calls a guy an “f boy” in the US, they are 100% calling him a “fuck boy.”

It’s not the first time I hear about this kind of Tax.

As long as the focus on female singles as hard as on the male, I will be happy.

Will I be happy about this?

Har! Har! Har! Har!